The Nutty Family

Family is a people who come together to bond as one unit related by a common cause and not necessarily by blood.  In Africa there are two types of family:

Nuclear family: usually very popular with the returnees who’ve lived in Europe and The West coming back home to settle down in plush areas such as high market estate houses and apartments. For them it’s the man, his wife and their children. The men have high end jobs, women very corporate and children go to private schools.

The Extended Family is the whole family tree of blood related siblings tied by a common ancestor and this is the whole caboodle that can go as far as a people related by kinship.

In recent times however many families have developed and this has been because of one thing or the other. There are social media families, whatsapp families that could be made up of old school mates or just people with a common interest come together to fulfill the human basic need of a sense of belonging. 

This article will talk of 2 of such families that have made an impact in this writer’s life.

The first one is The Dummy Family known to the rest of the world as DGG. When I first discovered this group on Facebook I recognized a few people I had known from school as members of the group and sent in a request to join. Over the years the group has expanded, people have come and gone and the group dynamics have constantly evolved into one that now undertakes social responsibilities as a philanthropic entity.
Case in point is the Apagya Project. http://www.graphic.com.gh/November-12

From being an online group, members started meeting each other and social meets became a part of everyday events and gradually a member didn’t have to look far for anything one needed be it professionally, physically or even spiritually. 

With members from all walks of life and in almost every corner of the world, the DGG family has become a family that is alive and breathing and anything that one has to do catches on very fast when the “dummy machinery” is brought into play. It grinds to a paste to achieve results.
Case in point the WearGhana story.

In this group I have met people who became more than family physically and professionally and who would sacrifice their comfort just so you can be more comfortable. Any time you wanted somebody to count on there was no need to look any farther than to look into the members of the group and you found what you wanted. It’s been a singular honor to know and have met physically two thirds of the over 200 members of the group, a fact which I’m sure I keep reiterating to anybody who has ears to listen.

It’s a wonderful family.

Now there is another family which I have found but this family is one that I’m the patriarch of and as such the family bears my name. This family is The Nutty Family.

Over the years I have come into contact with people who I’ve been drawn to one way or the other or who needed my help at a particular point in their lives and I have come to have a kind of older brother relationship or even sometimes a father figure type of relationship.

This relationships started in graduate school when during sports tournaments both local and international colleagues and juniors started coming to me to offer advice and opinion on issues both academic and even personal, mostly with the guys.

Along the years I came to realize that it was a blessing and a privilege or even call it a “calling” to help others and be there for them. Little did I know that my best friend and current partner also had the same spirit of helping other people.

So when we came together we decided to bring together all the people we have “helped” along the line so that the older ones could act as mentors to the junior ones in a teenage mentor program we started. Not only did we just “adopt” teenagers to try to “guide” them through life but also make sure they are provided for in terms of their education and upkeep for those in school.

Education is very important to us in the Nutty Family and especially for the girl child we made sure that our “daughters” in the university completed by providing their needs to the best of our abilities and the “sons” are also well catered for in various ways.

The Nutty Family is closely knit and there is constant communication between members of the family. At the end of every year, there is a family gathering where as many as can be present are around and each member gives a detailed report of what they have been up to in the past year and what they intend to do in the next year and how the members of the family can help each other in various aspects of their lives.

It is a time for sharing dreams and aspirations and for setting goals too. Family members share what they love about their jobs and what they hate too, give advise on what to like and what to avoid, play games, banter and tease each other and generally just talk about everything.

These gatherings are the highlights of being a Nutty family member. This is the time to introduce potential boyfriends and girlfriends and also new members of the family who have joined during the year. The family keeps growing everyday and it is amazing how no matter how crazy we get as a family it is still so much fun to be together.

One time we went to a wedding of a “daughter” which we streamed live online for those who weren’t around and the groom confessed that meeting the Nutty family had kept him on his toes because he’s heard that the head of the family was one crazy dude who took family seriously. He also said having been impressed, he was pledging to start a family of his own with his “Nutty wife”. That attracted loud laughter even though most people didn’t get the true import of what he was saying.

There have been other events where the family has prominently featured such as graduations of family members and there will be more as we celebrate the achievements of members of the Nutty family.

So in essence these two families, with pretty weird names: The Dummy family and The Nutty family are the family I have found aside from my kindred and blood ties and they,.together with the others, shape and dictate who I am as a person lately.

Family helps to fulfill the basic human need of belonging because no man is created to be an island onto himself. Everybody needs family but it takes one to take a step to reach out so others can reach out to you.

Like I always say
It begins with YOU!!

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One Response to “The Nutty Family”

  1. I love my nutty family

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